A heartfelt sympathy for one of our hR Owners

[PennSkinsFan]

Folks, one of my partners here at hR, Mike Perdue (known to many as Carmike) has had a series of tough situations lately, and for privacy reasons, I do not plan on dwelling into it. Mike is one of our very best posters, a great partner to me and the rest of the Admins here at hR, a tremendously good friend, and just a good, and i mean good in the best possible terms, a good man!

Mike lost his Mother today after a battle with cancer. It will and has devastated Mike. He watched her suffer the past few weeks, and if any of you have had to go through the grief of losing someone to cancer, you know it is truly a hard situation to go through. He is dealing with it, and helping his dad get through this.

Since Mike is such a beloved member of hR, and one of my finest friends, please feel free to extend sympathies here for Mike and his family.

Mark

[LATrueRedskin]

Oh man, Mike. My prayers are with you and your family. May God bless your mother. I know the feeling, man, and it's rough. You're a strong guy and your family will help get you through it. My deepest condolences go out to you.

[tbfoster1]

Mike I am very sorry for your loss, my prayers will be with you and your family. I lost my grandfather to cancer and I know how tough it is. remember the good times and she will always be with you.

[PyroGenic]

I know how it is mike, it sucks tremendously. Always remember everything good about the people you lose, even if you cry its a good way to remember them bye. Hope you feel better in the foreseeable future.

[dallasadmin]

Terrible news. My deepest sympathies to you and yours.

[GibbsRules!]

I'm sorry Mike. I can't begin to imagine your loss...Rest assured your mother is at peace now and her suffering is over. My prayers go out to you and yours, God Bless...

[sammy]

I am really sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my heart and prayers.

I went through something like this about 5 years ago my favorite uncle had brain cancer. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with. My family and friends helped me through it. I learned he will never truly be gone he will always be in my heart. My heart goes out to you and your family.

[Axegrinder]

To my friend CarMike,
Kristen and I would like to send out our heartfelt condolences to you and your family during this trying time.Please have faith that God won't give you anymore than you can handle,even though it may seem that way sometimes.
If you need anything at all,you know how to reach us.

[LadyNRedskinsfan]

Mike,

I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss. Im still blessed to have my mother, but I know Id be devastated to lose her. Im sure you are going through a difficult times right now, and we are all behind you. I lost my aunt to cancer last month and it was tough. You and your family are in my prayers. May your mother rest in peace.

~Rachael

[chrisbcbu]

Mike you have my deepest condolences, its rough anytime you lose a family member. You will be in my prayers.

[smoot]

ouch, my prayers go out

[TupaFan]

Mike, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You were the first person to welcome me aboard the night I signed up. You are truly a wonderful person. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[whitskins]

You are in our thoughts and prayers, Mike. I am truly so sorry for your loss.

[Skins57]

Mike my friend, I am so sorry. I know the grief of watching someone suffer and pass from cancer. I feel for you my friend. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am sorry.

[Skinz4lyfe]

CarMike,
My heart goes out to you and your family during this time of bureavement. I too understand the pain of losing a loved one. While many will tell you that you need to be strong for your family, there is no shame in crying and showing some emotions. Crying is theraputic. But always remember the times that you shared and rest assured that your mom is not in pain any longer. God Bless!

GP

[InsomniaKiller]

lost my mom 5 years ago when i was 19. i know words don't do much to help at this point, but a long time from now you'll read this thread again and it'll mean that much more to you to know how many people care. once you can smile again, you will do so quite often as you think about how blessed you were to have had the opportunity to have such a person in your life. in the meantime, my thoughts are with you.

[Santheb]

Mike, I'm sorry man. I know this is something impossible to recover from...man, I don't know what to say. I'll try to make it short and sweet, if it can be: I wish you only the very best from now on, in whatever should happen to you..hope you start feeling better..

[AGibbsGirl]

For anyone who has ever had the very great privilege of meeting Mike Perdue, then you must be able to imagine that this was a man raised by a wonderful Mother. He is one of the finest human beings that God ever blessed this Earth with and I bet she was proud of him.

I stopped and prayed for you and your family Mike, I know in my heart that she is with Him right now…I hope that brings you a measure of comfort in these hours where the pain is still so fresh...

[Booser]

mike,
may God bless you and your family in this difficult time, and i pray for the healing of your heart.

-mike boos

[BIGSEF3]

so sorry to hear about your loss. hang in there, and know that someday you will see her again.

[hockeygoalie29]

There is nothing that I nor anyone else here can say to make this any easier so just know that all 2000+ of us here at HR are behind you. Sorry...

[SkinsKY]

Mike,

I know we had talked a bit a couple weeks ago, so you know my prayers were with you. I'm at a loss frankly, but I know you understand where I'm coming from and I definitely continue to pray for God's peace and that your family can rally together around this tragedy.

[PGiddy18]

Mike,
There really are no words to make a loss like this better. But I do know what you are going through. I lost my uncle after an extremely long and hard fought battle with cancer this past summer. He was a "daddy" to me, and I know how you are feeling and what you are going through. Just know that where your mother is now, that there is no cancer and that she is well. You'll always have the memories, and she will be in your heart. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. My heart goes out to you and your family.
-Patty

[RedskinsVision]

time stands still for you mike. her spirits live inside you now and when you overcome your sorrows, you will feel blessed to know your mother have never left and is by your side in your heart.

[berry1086]

Don't know you very well man, but sorry for your loss. Keep ya head up

[halter91]

thoughts and prayers Mike. I just found out my grandpop has lung cancer. It is devastating toi our whole family, He's like the centerpiece of us. Stay strong bro, and I'm sure she is up there looking down on you.

God Bless.

[IowaSkinsFan]

Mike,

My deepest sympathies on your loss. You and your entire family will be in my prayers. May the Almighty Creator help and comfort you in your time of need.

God Bless.

[GolfFreak]

Mike - I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my grandfather this year and know how tough it is. Keep the memories close to your heart. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[NamVet4]

My Dear Friend Mike,
Roz and I extend our condolences and sympathies to you and all of your family. The Time of Sorrow will pass and the Time of Memories will fill your heart. My prayers are to the Almighty Creator to bless you, to comfort you and your family, and to welcome the soul of your Mother into eternal peace.
If there is anything you need . . . we are here for you.

[Seebs]

Mike, my deepest thoughts are with you and your family. The HR family from the other side of the Atlantic is with you.

[RedskinRyan]

a death in the family to someone you care about is a hard thing to deal with. my condolences go out to you.

[wewantdallas]

I don't know you, but I can tell just from the tone of your posts that you're a good person and a kind-hearted guy. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope you feel the love from the board and that that helps you at least a little bit...

[REDMAN]

May God bless you and your family in this time of grief.

[lightskin]

Mike,

So sorry to hear about your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family at this time.

[flave1969]

Mike, I cant tell you how sorry I am to hear your news. You have been very supportive of me since I joined and I have always appreciated that. My Aunty has just been given the all clear after chemotherapy and her operation and it was a big relief. I know nothing can prepare you for this because when I tried to face it, it hurt to much to try. I hope you can get back on track and cherish the great memories instead of thinking of the bad.

My wife Belinda also sends her regards.

[sarahsdad]

My Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family Mike.

God Bless

[bosshog001]

Mike, hang in there. I lost my mom a few years ago. Its never easy and never completely gets better, but it does get easier with time.

[openallnight]

Mike,
I lost my father to cancer when I was 15. So, I know there is nothing that can be said or done to ease your pain. Just know that your Mother's suffering has been alleviated and she is now in a much more pleasant place and she's looking down upon you with all her love.
My sincerest condolences to you and your family may God bless you and shine his grace upon you.

[NCskinsfanatic]

Mike,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You were the first person to reach out to me on this site and offer your help and friendship to a somewhat computer challenged fellow North Carolinian and for that I thank you Mike. Cancer has also claimed the lives of many of my family members so I can empathize with what you must be going through. I lost my grandmother who practically raised me, at 12 years old, not a day goes by that I do not think of her. No words can possibly take away the pain you must feel right now, I am well aware of this. Just try to focus on remembering her when she was healthy and cherish the good times the two of you spent together. And judging from this thread you are surrounded by many , many friends that will be here for you should you need us. Take care Mike and know that my family will keep you and your's in our prayers and if you need anything please do not hesitate to let me know Mike. Take care and God Bless.

Eric

[vegeta2364]

CarMike,
My heart goes out to you and your family during this time of bureavement. I too understand the pain of losing a loved one. While many will tell you that you need to be strong for your family, there is no shame in crying and showing some emotions. Crying is theraputic. But always remember the times that you shared and rest assured that your mom is not in pain any longer. God Bless!

GP



may God Bless you and your family. Im sorry for what happened... my prayers are with you. Once again.. .may God bless.

[Dolla Bill]

Mike,

You and your family are in my prayers. I lost my dad when I was 16, and I don't know where i'd be without my mom. My condolences to you and your family. God Bless

Bill

[bgforever]

I don't want to pile on CarMike, but I just have to say it. My mother passed away after a long bout with Diabetes (lifelong), the removal of both breasts from cancer (non-smoker, etc) and added insult to injury, a heart attack before the final week of this life. I cannot find the words for the suffering you "both" and others related experienced. By now I am sure you've heard it, but it is always so true - the better place awaits and suffering is no more.
I can't go on, my condolences CarMike.

[28thegreat]

Mike and family,
My prayer for you all is that in this time you will feel the arms of a loving God who knows your hurt and grief. May the comfort of God's presence, the knowledge of His love, and the reminder of His ultimate victory over death bring you peace. And may the empty days ahead be filled with ever increasing fondness as the precious memories of your mother's life and love begin to fill the emptiness. You mean a lot to this community here at hR. When one hurts, we all hurt. That's what it means to be a family. Our heartfelt prayers are with you in these days of healing.

[nyjunc]

My condolences to CarMike and his family. That is horrible news and I wish you all the best.

[Skinzaholic]

Mike - as you can easily see - you are loved here and when you hurt, we all hurt with you. I can honestly say that we have flooded God's email inbox on this one.

[Jimreaper007]

Mike, I send you the very best of wishes from my family to yours.

The only thing parents leave behind on this planet is their children. Judging by the massive outpouring of well wishes here, your mom has an awful lot to be proud of as she passes through heaven's gates.

You will honor her the most by continuning to be a fine man.

Best wishes
JR007

[Evilsockm]

My deepest sympathies, condolances, and prayers are with you.

[skins111111]

hang in there Mike and walk through the process.

[IMALILTEAPOT]

sorry to hear that mike god bless u and ur mom

[WackyJacky]

Mike,

My deepest, heartfelt sympathies. I wish you strength and peace as you deal with your loss.

Jacky

[WRSK1NS]

Mike,
I am truley sorry for you and your family's loss. I lost my mother about 3 years ago and I know how it still affects me to this day. You have my prayers and my sympathy. Words seem so empty now but let me know if there is anything I can do.

[Skins4life]

Mike -

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

[#1SkInSfAn]

Mike, I am terribly sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you and your family are able to help each other through this trying time and rebound from this tragic loss. My thoughts will be with you and your family.

[skinsfan44]

Mike, I am so sorry to hear about your mother.

Prayers to you and your family.

I went through seeing my father-in-law die of lung cancer, so I know all to well what you are going though, bro.

[Smiley]

Mike,

You and your family are in my prayers. Hang in there.

[ConradCountry]

Dear Mike,

I am truly sorry for your lose. Losing someone close is never easy and my prayers are with you and your family. Suround yourself with those closes to you and remeber all the good times.

[soch21]

My deepest sympathies..... keep your head up!!!!!

[GeneralDisorder]

What can I say that hasn't been said already. Thoughts with you and your family, mate...

[Kanman21]

Mike.....I want share my deepest sympathies with your loss today. Redskins fans are like a family and I know I speak for everybody else here that we are with you. Take care.

[CarMike]

WOW!

I don't know what else to say hR members! Your reaching out to myself and family can't be explained. The joy I have recieved from reading all of your thoughts is just overwhelming.

My mom is so much better off now. She was diagnosed with breast cancer back in April of 2003. She fought a long hard struggle for a year and a half. Up till Halloween weekend she fought a great fight. She wanted to make one more trip to visit family in Virginia. On her way back dad said she took a turn for the worse. On Sunday Oct 31st, is when things started to catch up with her. The following Sunday night I recieved a phone call from my dad. He told me that I should get home as soon as possible. They didn't think she would make it thru the night.....That was a week and a half ago. Even when the Hospice nurse said she wouldn't last 24 hours....she held on for another week. Last Friday morning she had a stroke around 11 PM. An hour later I got a phone telling me once again that I should get home. Well, she made it thru the weekend. She finally let go around 5:30-6:30 am Tuesday morning. She looked so at peace once she passed on.

Cancer is a very viscious desease. It doesn't descriminate against anyone. So please make sure you tell your loved ones how much they mean to you every chance you get.

Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers. My entire family appreciates it!

Mike.

[GibbsRules!]

Glad your back Mike,
Just wanted to share the site for the Relay For Life sponsored by the ACS. My wife and I attend it every year and try to raise as much money as possible for this horrible disease. It has had an impact on both sides of our family. Welcome Back!

http://www.cancer.org/docroot/GI/gi_1.asp?sitearea=GI

[CarMike]

thank you so very much GR. We have been doing this sometime ourselves. Even before my mother became ill.

Thanks for the link and its great to be back! :D

I urge everyone to check out the link that GR has posted. Its worth while!

I missed you guys!

[CarMike]

And my mothers obituary.....

http://www.legacy.com/WinstonSalem/LegacySubPage2.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonId=2829828

[Jimskin]

CM: My mom...Who really was and is my best friend, went to the Dr's one afternoon with a pain in her left arm which the Dr. quickly diagnosed as tendonitis. She came home took her usual 1 to 3 o'clock nap and died in her recliner. She was having a heart attack in the Dr.'s office and he sent her home with a pain killer. I never took any action toward the Dr., but pretty much changed my life and went into the health care field. When people ask me why I don't advance, my reply is always...Somebody has to have a close enough relationship with patients and families to protect them from alot of health care professionals. ... I don't know why I share this other than the hurt of losing my mother/my friend. It was devastating and I truly feel for you.

With Respect,

JIM

Thank you for all you do on this site.

[CarMike]

Wow, Jim. Thats a very touching story. And I'm sorry for your mother. It feels good to talk about I'm sure.....

[joethefan]

Hey Mike,

I will continue to pray for you and your family in this hour of need. GOD has blessed you with her life and believe me I lost my grandmother who raised me, to cancer I understand what you are going through....and may GOD continue to bless your dad, you and your family.....


Eric Taylor and Family

JOETHEFAN

[flave1969]

Mike,
It is great to see you come back up here. I hope the memorial was infused with the fighting spirit your mum showed in the past year and that you were all able to smile inwardly at the many great memories of her.

[Minnesota Mike]

Mike,

I am saddened to hear of your loss. I experienced the loss of a parent a few years ago, and my brother earlier this year and it is without a doubt the hardest thing I have ever experienced.

However knowing that the person's suffering is over, and that they are now in a place where there is no pain, does to some extent help in dealing with the sorrow of the person not being around anymore.

You have my condolonces.

[split3clemente]

Its great to have you back Mike

[CarMike]

Thanks again everyone! Much appreciated.