Wow.

[JoeDaSchmoe]

Had a really, really, really bad rift with a group of friends tonight - including my best friend for all four years of high school. Don't think it's anything that's gonna be mended before everyone heads off to college. I'm trying to stay all normal and level-headed, but I dunno if that'll hold up or not. These were the guys I hung out with four or five days a week. Completely unprovoked. Gonna be a lot more bored now....

Anyway, uh... not even sure what I'm asking for here. I guess, if I'm not exactly posting lots of highly entertaining and happy messages, don't get upset, it'll pass. Or not posting much at all. I don't know, really.

[redskin_rich]

Had a really, really, really bad rift with a group of friends tonight - including my best friend for all four years of high school. Don't think it's anything that's gonna be mended before everyone heads off to college. I'm trying to stay all normal and level-headed, but I dunno if that'll hold up or not. These were the guys I hung out with four or five days a week. Completely unprovoked. Gonna be a lot more bored now....

Anyway, uh... not even sure what I'm asking for here. I guess, if I'm not exactly posting lots of highly entertaining and happy messages, don't get upset, it'll pass. Or not posting much at all. I don't know, really.
A part of life Joe, it happens to everybody. Wait it out for a while then get back in touch with your buds. All will be well, don't stress over it.

[bwparker]

Sorry to hear that Joe. I'll assume if you wanted to go into more details you would have; I won't press you to find out what happened. Regardless, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If the friendships are important you guys will find a way to reconcile. Best of luck

[JoeDaSchmoe]

A part of life Joe, it happens to everybody. Wait it out for a while then get back in touch with your buds. All will be well, don't stress over it.

No, trust me. I'm not exaggerating when I say that, except for the one who was my best friend all that time, there won't be any getting back in touch. They made that very clear.

[bwparker]

No, trust me. I'm not exaggerating when I say that, except for the one who was my best friend all that time, there won't be any getting back in touch. They made that very clear.
You're peaking my curiosity Joe, now I wanna know what happened...

[redskin_rich]

No, trust me. I'm not exaggerating when I say that, except for the one who was my best friend all that time, there won't be any getting back in touch. They made that very clear.
Well, its of a personal nature I'm sure or you would have gone into detail. Maybe it takes some time but I think you all will patch things up when you guys all come home for the holidays.
You and your friends are going to start all new lives now and good memories will outweigh the bad, trust me.

[JoeDaSchmoe]

Well, its of a personal nature I'm sure or you would have gone into detail. Maybe it takes some time but I think you all will patch things up when you guys all come home for the holidays.
You and your friends are going to start all new lives now and good memories will outweigh the bad, trust me.

I know what you're getting at, and I've been through a couple of those situations before. This one is much different. There's no ambiguity or possible future change here.

[redskin_rich]

I know what you're getting at, and I've been through a couple of those situations before. This one is much different. There's no ambiguity or possible future change here.
The only thing in my life that really drove a wedge into a friendship had to do with a girlfriend. Without going into details, I think you can understand. Neither relationship was ever resumed and I have no regrets about it, though it made me bitter for a long time.

Whatever happens Joe, you have plenty of friends here so if you want to talk, whether in a post or pm, we're here for you.

[JoeDaSchmoe]

You're peaking my curiosity Joe, now I wanna know what happened...

Really, really don't want to get into it. Let's just say that they got personal on just about every level.

RR, thanks, maybe I'll figure out something more to say soon....

[PyroGenic]

was somebody drunk? or somebody might just have had a stick up their *spencored* today. I ditched most of my friends in high school. I have a group of friends I've known for 13 years and we've been through it all. Feel better about it Joe, you won't see much of them anymore anyway.

you know if they were smashed it only counts half as much... or something...

[JoeDaSchmoe]

was somebody drunk? or somebody might just have had a stick up their *spencored* today. I ditched most of my friends in high school. I have a group of friends I've known for 13 years and we've been through it all. Feel better about it Joe, you won't see much of them anymore anyway.

you know if they were smashed it only counts half as much... or something...

No, they weren't. All sober.

[whitskins]

I don't have any idea what this argument was over of course so I can't say who was in the right or the wrong, but I can say that it sounds very cowardly for a group of so-called friends to gang up on you and air out these grievances unprovoked like that. If these guys really had any guts they would have said something much earlier, individually or not, but not harboring any passive aggressive garbarge that probably lead up to what happened last night.

It's really funny in life how you find so many people who are too afraid to say something one on one but when they've got a gang of people with them they can say whatever they want. If any of these guys are your true friends they'll realize this and make some sort of amends. If not then they're not worth it and would have probably evaporated from your life over time anyways.

It's tough when you're at a small high school like SS/SA and a lot of people have grown up together for so many years and it's such a confined environment, you're often becoming friends with people who might not have met your standards if there were simply more people surrounding you. At college you'll have plenty of opportunities for forming stronger bonds. And you definitely will.

[chrisbcbu]

Thats tough luck bro. Friends can usually get through anything(granted there are exceptions to this rule) and they may some day come back around. It could take years but they will come around.

But i wouldnt worry too much. Once you get into full swing of college life you really wouldnt see them anywayz. Hopefully you will be going to frat parties and meeting new ppl who you will probably some day call ur best friends. To me, my college friends have lasted longer than my high school friends.

[RedskinsDave]

That "tastes great, less filling" argument never ends well. ;)

[dj_stouty]

You will gain so many new friends at BC, you won't even think twice about this rift. (Except maybe during holiday breaks)

[BurgundyNGold]

If this group of "friends" that you hung out with 4 or 5 days a week all together got into it with you on a personal level and there is no opportunity for reconcilation, then I would say that they were never truly your friends. True friendship includes understanding the perspective of the other person with there's a disagreement.

BTW, they weren't Dallass fans were they? :D

[Axegrinder]

Hey Joe,let me run this one by you.
It's easier to go your seperate ways[college,work,travel,etc...] if you're mad.
It's much easier to have an excuse to cut ties.

The good news....if you've been really tight for years,this will pass.
It's how y'all really feel about each other that counts.
Consider it weeding out your real friends.

[skinfan43]

Very sorry, JDS.
I echo what has been said by everyone thusfar. If you want some more help dealing with it later on, cue us in to what happened, if you'd like. Everyone who's responded here seems to be the helpful, caring, and understanding types.
I hope you'll feel a bit better at the stroke of 8:00pm on Saturday night, where your insightful reports will start to come to pass...;)

[hail2skins]

It'll pass Joe, just give it time. If it doesn't then they weren't true friends as has been mentioned before. Also, as DJ said you'll meet plenty of new friends in school.

[AGibbsGirl]

I remember losing a couple of really good friends early on in High School, I never knew what I had done wrong. One night right before graduation me and some friends ran into these girls at a bar in Georgetown (you could drink at 18 back then) and the one girl that I was hurt by the most told me how sorry she was about all the missed years. I found out that they all thought I was "too cute" in my Pom Pom outfit and decided they didn't want to be my friend...er? what? The funny thing was...I quit Poms because of them....and they stayed in...stupid I know....

Anyway, by then I had a great core group of friends, that to this day I still see, and talk to on a regular basis.

Don't know what to say other then at College you will meet some great people and maybe at your 10 year reunion they'll say their sorry. This sucks that this happened right before you're about to leave.

When are you leaving BTW?